As you do… ahh Tumblr, you are so full of gems and ridiculous gifs. Deep thought and idiocy. How I love thee.
My friend’s getting married in about 36 hours. Eeeeeee :)
Every time you open your mouth to speak, every time you ask your body to perform an action you make a choice. You decide either consciously or unconsciously what you are going to do in that moment.
An unconscious choice doesn’t make it less of a choice, it is just one you didn’t make with conscious awareness. Like for example, getting up and going to work. You get out of bed, put on your clothes and go to work. You made the choice to go to work even if you just did it out of habit or because it is what you are supposed to do, you made the choice.
Why do you go to work? Because you have to pay the bills. Because you have nothing else to do. Because…because…because… There are a million good reasons why you go to work, but it is your choice. There is no law that says you have to work. If you are willing to live with the consequences of not working (i.e. no food, no electric, no internet, no stuff), then not working is a choice.
Even in the act of going to work, you have control. If the “stuff” you get from having and holding a job is worth it, then you have made the choice to work. If it isn’t worth the stress/pain/hate of your job, then figure out something else. You do have that choice.
I am spearheading a campaign. It is the “You are always in control” campaign. The purpose of this particular drive is to have everyone do their best to be conscious of their choices. And thus true to themselves. Everytime you are faced with a choice, ask yourself, which option makes me feel good about me?
I propose that if you make the choice that makes you feel good about you, you will find yourself happier and feeling fulfilled.
I also propose that if everyone did this, the world might be a more humane place in which to live.
I know that my becomming aware of my actions, aware of my choices and my decisions has changed my life. I didn’t even have to do a lot of deep and investigative work, I just had to be aware of my choices.
Maybe not “you are always in control” for that is a fallacy… there is no such thing. There are always factors at work that are beyond your reach, as they should be. I like the belief that you always have a choice. You are forever the chooser.
See I disagree. You are always in control of your actions. You cannot control the actions of others, but you can always control yourself. You always have the choice to control your impulses no matter the situation.
No you cannot control the choices that others make. And you cannot make everything work out in your favor. But to me, that isn’t about control, that is about entitlement and selfishness. Micromanaging, wanting to know the future, wanting to control others…that isn’t control. That is force. That is insecurity.
You are always in control of who you are and the choices you make in your speech and your behavior. You are even in control of your breath and your heartbeat.
So yes, I stick with my assertion. You are always in control. The key is to understand that you can only control you. That is as it should be.
By allowing myself to play the role of victim of circumstance, I am giving up my power. I am allowing myself to deny responsibility for my words and my actions. It doesn’t matter what is going on around me, it doesn’t matter what anyone else says or does, it doesn’t matter how chaotic the situation appears. I am not a victim of circumstance and I always have control of every thing I do. Even when I make the choice unconsciously it is still me in control of myself in that situation.
“So young - and attractive, very attractive. He’s tall, dressed in a fine gray suit, white shirt, and black tie with unruly dark copper colored hair and intense, bright gray eyes that regard me shrewdly.”
That… is one hell of a tie.
THE OXFORD COMMA
oh i see now